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NAME YOURSELF

We need to be named at an age when we can’t name ourselves. So our parents or grandparents or some other adult gives us a name. That name defines the person who named us more than it defines us. Naturally. If my dad gave me a name, that word tells more about my dad’s belief, imagination or mindset than it tells about me. Rather it gives me a certain amount of weight I have to carry the rest of my life. Be that as it may be, but we all should give ourselves a name too, after attaining adulthood. A man knows himself the best and he should name himself accordingly. If our guardian named us & that act signifies love then we love ourselves the most. Hence this act of naming ourselves, only completes a circle of love. We give names to toys, house, bridge, state, station, country etc with a conscious mind, but we ourselves are named when we are not fully aware or conscious of anything. That is not fair. There are many instances where your dog is more appropriatly named than yourself. So go ahead and give yourself a name. Let it be an unofficial one to save hassles.One can carry two names with ease , I am sure.

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Do it with brain ( and balls 😄)

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LIFE IS A CINEMA THAT YOU HAVE TO WATCH AND ACT AT THE SAME TIME. STORY UNKNOWN, IN WHICH YOU ARE A CHARACTER WHO PLAYS HIS PART AND WATCH HOW THE STORY UNFOLDS.NO USE KEEPING A NOTION THAT YOUR LIFE WILL BE LIKE THIS OR THAT. EACH LIFE IS DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE. EACH LIFE , YOUR LIFE IS AN UNKNOWN STORY TO YOU. IT UNFOLDS TO YOU, WITH YOU, GRADUALLY. YOU ARE PLAYING A CHARACTER ‘LIVE’, YOU DON’T KNOW THE SCRIPT, ITS A REALITY SHOW. NO POINT IN GETTING ATTACHED OR AFFECTED OR INFLUENCED BY ANOTHER CHARACTER. YOU DON’T KNOW IN WHAT WAY THE CHARACTER IS PLACED IN THE STORY. INVOLVED YET UNATTACHED – AS GITA SAYS , IS THE WAY.

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LOVE IS DANGEROUS

Love is dangerous. A car without brake is dangerous. Anything that you can’t stop is dangerous. Can you stop loving even if you want to ? After you realise that someone does not deserve your love, is not capable of your love, can you really stop loving that person ? can you really stop loving when you are truely in love ? You can’t. that is the reason of all troubles and complications. has always been like that. hence stay away from love. it heals but mostly it kills. love is dangerous.

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WHENEVER SOMEONE IS INTRODUCED TO ME AS “VERY KNOWLEDGEABLE” I CAN’T HELP BUT CHUCKLE SECRETLY.

HE/SHE DOES’NT KNOW WHY HE/SHE CAME, DOES’NT KNOW WHEN, WHERE, HOW AND WHY HE/SHE WILL GO, YET HE/SHE IS KNOWLEDGEABLE !

THAT’S SOMETHING, IS’NT IT ? 😃😃😃

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THE FACTBOOK OF LIFE

1. PRESENCE OF LOVE MAKES YOU HAPPY AND WEAK, ABSENCE MAKES YOU SAD AND STRONG.

2. SINCERITY TO SELF PAYS, TO OTHER’S AT TIMES DON’T.

3. TRUE FRIEND MEANS – ONE YOU CAN TRUST WITH YOUR WEALTH, WIFE, PRESTIGE. TRUE FRIENDS ARE RARE.

4. GOD DOESN’T WANT US TO KNOW OUR FUTURE SIMPLY BECAUSE KNOWLEDGE OF TERRIBLE EVENTS BOUND TO HAPPEN CAN MAKE PRESENT HELL.

5. COMMON MEN HAVE AVERAGE UNDERSTANDING. THEIR CRITICISM AND APPRECIATION ARE VALUELESS.

6. WOMEN ARE POSSIBLE PSYCHOLOGICAL COMPLICATIONS TO MEN, EVEN IN ZERO INTIMACY SITUATIONS, BEST ROUTE IS AVOIDANCE.

7. NO ONE CARES ANGER OF A PERSON IF THAT PERSON HAS NO AUTHORITY / POWER TO HARM.

8. YOU CAN ONLY MAKE PEOPLE TURN AND TWIST ACCORDING TO YOUR WISH BY INTELLIGENCE AND STRATEGY.

9. LOVE IS BELIEVED TO BE OF 2 TYPES – RECIPROCATED, UNRESIPROCATED. ACTUALLY ITS JUST ONE TYPE.

10. ALL WOMEN ARE NOT EPITOMES OF VIRTUES.

11. PEACE CAN BE YOURS WITH INTELLIGENCE, WISDOM AND BIT OF LUCK.

12. WELL WISHERS ARE NOT ALWAYS WELL DOERS.

13. TRUE LOVE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX, TRUE SEX HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE. THAT SAID, TRUE LOVE & SEX COMBINATION TAKES TWO TO THE NEXT LEVEL.

14. AGEING GRACEFULLY WITHOUT DENIAL, WITH TIME, IS GREAT, IF YOU ARE ACQUIRING THE BENEFITS OF AGEING.

15. NO LIFE IS FAIR. HUMAN RULES MAY HAVE SOME FAIRNESS BUT GOD’S RULE HAS NO RULE, RATIONALE, LOGIC.

16. GOD IS AN ABSENTEE SUPER POWER.

17. PEACE IS TO BE ACQUIRED BY MEANS : THE MEANS BEING, WISDOM , INTELLIGENCE , MONEY AND LUCK.

18. AVOID COMPANY OF PEOPLE YOU DON’T REALLY LIKE OR YOU KNOW ARE NOT OF YOUR TYPE AND YOU WILL BE MUCH HAPPIER.

19. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHO YOU LOVE, WHAT MATTERS IS – WHO LOVES YOU.

20. E Q IS MUCH MORE POWERFUL THAN I Q.

21. DESPITE BEING SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS RELATIVES ACQUITANCES , EACH OF US JUST MAY HAVE TWO OR THREE PERSONS IN LIFE TO WHOME WE ACTUALLY MATTER. REST ARE JUST CROWD.

22. LESSER YOU TALK, BETTER YOU WILL BE. STRATEGY INCLUDES SMILES, MONOSYLLABLES, GESTURES, CLOSE ENDED REMARKS ETC.

23. AMIABILITY AND SOCIALISATION GIVES YOU A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY.

24. EACH HUMAN IS AN UNIQUE ISLAND OF BODY MIND AND SOUL TIGHTLY SELF CONTAINED AND SPLENDIDLY SECURED. ONLY TALKING CREATES A FISSURE WHICH WIDENS WITH MORE WORDS.

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LOVE, SEX, AFFAIRS – THE LESSER THE BETTER !

A purely sexual affair can infiltrate on emotional zone and even a purely platonic love can be toxic for emotional health. Casual flings don’t always remain casual at the end. The right love culminating in marriage and remaining steady is ideal.
An extra marital affair means marital discord, being unfair to wife/husband, children. Even without marriage, wrong sex can do havoc damage to habit, wrong love can do havoc damage to mind.

So LOVE & SEX : LESSER THE BETTER AND AT RIGHT TIME OF LIFE.

Imagine a true love, after a love marriage ! In end, its pain, trouble, quarrel,expenses. It destroys life.
So seemingly unfortunate person with few love or sex is actually fortunate. At the end of the day the fact remains that its not easy to walk away from a beautiful intelligent woman / handsome sensitive man, just because she/he came at the wrong time in your life, be it love or sex. Its in our chromosome of men to be attracted to women & vice versa, be it love , sex or both. And to turn away is like fighting one’s own chromosome.

ROMANTIC LOVE IS OVERHYPED FROM TIME IMMEMORIAL BY NOVELISTS, DRAMATISTS ONCE ; AND NOW MEDIA , BECAUSE IT HAS A EUPHORIC FEEL GOOD PHASE ON BOTH PARTNERS WHO SUCCOMB TO IT AND WE ALL WANT A PIECE OF THAT. FALLING IN LOVE, BEING IN LOVE IS PSYCHO-SOMATIC, CHEMICAL REACTION HAPPENS IN BODY AND EFFECTS THE BRAIN OR IS IT THE OTHER WAY ? ALBEIT FACT REMAINS THAT YOU FEEL EUPHORIC, LIGHT HEADED & SENSE OF REASONING GOES FOR A TOSS !

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Every suicide news confirms that somewhere an individual thought that life is not fair. Well, it isn’t. Get this in your system that LIFE IS NOT FAIR, IT NEVER WAS, IT NEVER WILL BE. Children die, parents die, lover cheats, man gets fired, woman gets raped, some sick guy shoots a hundred innocents down…… . It’s madness, it’s chaos. That’s your life & mine too. Don’t think you are a victim of unfairness. You are not. Our brain tries to find reason in all these chaos. We wonder : WHAT HAVE I DONE TO DESERVE THIS ? Well you don’t get what you deserve and get what you don’t ! Because life is madness. Though all religions say something different. Do this and this and God will take care of the rest. GOD doesn’t take care of anything. I am sorry if I have hurt your faith and feelings but GOD, ASTROLOGY, TARROT CARD, TALISMAN, STONES, PSYCHIC HEALING — TAKES CARE OF NOTHING ! Sure you got some benefit in past and that’s mere coincidence. It’s needless to say faith healing is your power to recuperate, placibo effect. If GOD had taken care of us then unarmed innocents would’nt have died, children wouldn’t have died of starvation ….. . We like to believe in certain comfortable rules, we feel secured. BE GOOD AND GOD WILL BE GOOD TO YOU ! It’s our baby blanket. NO GOD, NO GUARANTEE !! Anything can happen to you and me. Then what do we do ? How to live ? In one of the Hindu religious scriptures, UPANISHADA the definition of existence is given in a very interesting way. I am referring religious Upanishada because true Hinduism is not exactly a religion, it’s a philosophy, a way of life that promises peace of mind and soul. So the question is : What Is Life ? Answer : Imagine you are being chased by a tiger on a hilly road. On your one side is steep hill and on your other side is abyss. The next moment you slip and you are falling down the abyss, when you get hold of creepers growing on the slope. So now the situation is – you are hanging on to some creepers, beneath is abyss promising sure death, above is tiger waiting with promise of death. Then you realise a mountain rat has come out of a crevice and is slowly cutting the very creepers you are hanging on to. All of a sudden you notice a bunch of ripe juicy grapes grown on the slope, just within your reach. You get hold of one, put it in your mouth and think to yourself ” Not bad, not bad at all ! “. THAT’S LIFE.

Follow rules, feel for needy, be good to others and yourself and thereby try to bring some method to this madness but you can’t control all of it. Because ( there I go again ) LIFE IS NOT FAIR, IT NEVER WAS, IT NEVER WILL BE !

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On Music :

Listening to music is  having a romantic moment with it  while dancing to music is  making passionate love to it.

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​HOW TO ATTAIN PEACE ? 

After Air, Water and Food for basic sustenance, the fourth most sought after is Peace. Thousands of books are written, seminars & workshops are held and alternative approach experiments are done every year to explain , understand and attain Peace. Without a commercial motive and without a care for online hits, I will not waste words on this subject just to keep you hooked to my blog. We both have better things to do in life , right ? 

So HOW TO ATTAIN PEACE ? 

– TALK LESS

– THINK LESS

– BE LESS INVOLVED

Explanation:

The lesser you talk, the more your mind is at rest, the more your mind is at rest, the more its soothing for your nerves. Think less. This is difficult but can be done. Whenever you realise that you are thinking of irrelevant issues and events, just stop. Better, try not to think for a couple of minutes. Just no thoughts, a blank mind, listening to music or ticking of clock or cricket noises or feeling the breeze caress your face ….. . A few months practice will help you to increase No Thoughts time. This is actually level one of mastering mind, an integral part of martial arts training and ofcourse meditation. Lastly get less involved in affairs and issues that doesn’t affect you. Your life runs on your chosen path with its unique set of joys and sorrows. Stop worrying about other’s issues or advising them. Help someone if its a heartfelt urge but that’s it. Help & forget about it.

Well , that’s it !! This is the simplest technique to attain not absolute but a certain level of peace. Just remember, your peace does not depend on any external factors but internal training. Live a simple life, be honest with yourself, work hard and try these 3 paths. May peace be with you, almost always 🙂