GYAN 237

LOVE, SEX, AFFAIRS – THE LESSER THE BETTER !

A purely sexual affair can infiltrate on emotional zone and even a purely platonic love can be toxic for emotional health. Casual flings don’t always remain casual at the end. The right love culminating in marriage and remaining steady is ideal.
An extra marital affair means marital discord, being unfair to wife/husband, children. Even without marriage, wrong sex can do havoc damage to habit, wrong love can do havoc damage to mind.

So LOVE & SEX : LESSER THE BETTER AND AT RIGHT TIME OF LIFE.

Imagine a true love, after a love marriage ! In end, its pain, trouble, quarrel,expenses. It destroys life.
So seemingly unfortunate person with few love or sex is actually fortunate. At the end of the day the fact remains that its not easy to walk away from a beautiful intelligent woman / handsome sensitive man, just because she/he came at the wrong time in your life, be it love or sex. Its in our chromosome of men to be attracted to women & vice versa, be it love , sex or both. And to turn away is like fighting one’s own chromosome.

ROMANTIC LOVE IS OVERHYPED FROM TIME IMMEMORIAL BY NOVELISTS, DRAMATISTS ONCE ; AND NOW MEDIA , BECAUSE IT HAS A EUPHORIC FEEL GOOD PHASE ON BOTH PARTNERS WHO SUCCOMB TO IT AND WE ALL WANT A PIECE OF THAT. FALLING IN LOVE, BEING IN LOVE IS PSYCHO-SOMATIC, CHEMICAL REACTION HAPPENS IN BODY AND EFFECTS THE BRAIN OR IS IT THE OTHER WAY ? ALBEIT FACT REMAINS THAT YOU FEEL EUPHORIC, LIGHT HEADED & SENSE OF REASONING GOES FOR A TOSS !

GYAN 228

Love or Arranged Marriage ?

Actually its quite simple – no debates, no discussions required. Simple answer is both ; depending on your age bracket and / or your mental maturity. When you are young you tend to be guided by lots of factors that can distract you. You may fall in love with appearance or voice or eyes or succumb to carnal temptations. Getting married for the wrong reasons are what youngsters often do. So when young or when you are mentally not mature enough, responsible enough , an Arranged Marriage where your elders in family do the selection for you is best for you. It eliminates lots of factors that can cloud your judgement. Love Marriages are for mature, responsible, honest and sensible individuals. Though movies and media, poems and novels tend to glorify Love Marriages of young couples and sell this as a tempting, desirable package, this is detrimental for a long term relationship. It needs a lot of maturity and self-control to enjoy sex responsibly. Lots of marriages happen in India because of advanced pregnancy under the veil of social marriages. Attaining adulthood doesn’t necessarily mean you are mature yet. In India most of the young adult men donot take responsibility of themselves or their lives and when they get married they make a mess of their married lives too. Personally I feel , no one in your family not even your parents really knows which type of partner will be suitable for you – only you know it. Your emotional, physical and intellectual needs are your domain. No one understands you better than yourself. So you should select your own life partner after you become a responsible adult with loads of common sense. Romantic love is a beautiful song of certain duration and it will end some day and when it does, truth surfaces. So be prudent enough to foresee those truths before commitments. Marriages are NOT made in heaven but married life can surely be a hell. Tread with caution !