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EVERY MORNING, YOU GET A CHANCE TO FORGET AND START AFRESH. You get a chance to forget your loss, your mistakes, your pain ….., but you cling on to it. You cling on to your past, your misgivings, death, fights, tragedy, detrimental habits. Life has no Pause button, it goes on, while you stop and lament. I know its easy to write but difficult to forget great losses. But your tears, sighs and lamentations won’t fill up your emptiness, it’s not that easy. So be with life, use one morning, any morning, to start afresh. From our childhood we are trained to remember but not to forget. But forgetting is an essential part of healthy living. Forget negative events, characters. Gift yourself a new chapter. Believe me when I say this : You take the first step, life & time will help you after that.


​When self declared Godmen commit crimes and are punished, its good news for me and millions of other rationalists / actualists but a degree of dissatisfaction remains in me which could have been wiped clean if those fanatics and believers who followed these Godmen were also punished to some lesser degrees. I do realize ofcourse that this is practically not viable. Its easy to punish a self declared Godman like Baba Ram Rahim for raping two women disciples for two years but how can Baba’s 5 crore followers be punished ? That being said, the fact remains that, a major part of common people still remains gullible and naive. They love to believe in miracles and they crave for some miracle to happen in their mundane lives that will take care of all their problems , afflictions and miseries. They believe in Godmen because they want to believe in someone with more powers than human. And almost always a lion part of these believers become fanatics. Religious fanatism is more deadly than any organized crime because it can do any harm to anyone who opposes the belief and comes very close to organized terrorism. Fanatics unfortunately have answers for all questions which rationalists don’t. Logic and reason can’t give you an answer as to what happens after death but fanatics can. For them there is a heaven and a hell and a God and sins and punishments …… so on.  Concepts based not on evidence but faith. Faith is nothing but ‘ I LOVE TO BELIEVE AND I WILL ‘ with arrogance. For fanatics there is nothing as accidents , for them everything happens for a reason. Everything that occurs in this world of ours has an intention, a will of someone far superior than us. Its a kind of childhood innocense that makes us believe in Batman and Superman. 

Self declared Godmen all over the world take benefit of this faith factor of people, spend a considerable amount of money for welfare of commoners which for them is just and investment and establish themselves as Godmen. We love to believe that God is watching us, will take care of us, so when another human takes care of our problems with care, kind words, help and money, we fit him /her in the next best position available that is Godman. Life is pretty simple. You work, you earn, you survive, you die. Whatever happens to you – an accident, a decease, a heart break, a tragedy …… – just happens. Cause & effect, or just sheer chance factor. There are no theories, no explanations, no bookkeeping of your good deeds and sins, no miracles, no heaven or hell. 

I guess the believers know all these already but choose not give room to reasons.

First a story for you.

* Two travelling monks reached a town where there was a young woman waiting to step out of her sedan chair. The
rains had made deep puddles and she couldn’t step
across without spoiling her silken robes. She stood there,
looking very cross and impatient. She was scolding her
attendants. They had nowhere to place the packages they
held for her, so they couldn’t help her across the puddle.
The younger monk noticed the woman, said nothing, and
walked by. The older monk quickly picked her up and put
her on his back, transported her across the water, and
put her down on the other side. She didn’t thank the older
monk; she just shoved him out of the way and departed.
As they continued on their way, the young monk was
brooding and preoccupied. After several hours, unable to
hold his silence, he spoke out. “That woman back there
was very selfish and rude, but you picked her up on your
back and carried her! Then, she didn’t even thank you!”

“I set the woman down hours ago,” the older monk
replied. “Why are you still carrying her?”  *

There is an actual cost to holding onto things we should
let go of. It can come in the form of anger, frustration,
resentment or something even worse. The question is,
can you really afford to keep paying the bill?
The faster we learn to drop our emotional dead weight,
the more room we create for something better. I’m
talking about everything from stewing about the guy
who cut you off in traffic this morning to still refusing
to forgive an old friend for an event 20 years ago.
We have only so much bandwidth. We have only so
much time. We only have so much energy. Do we really
want to invest any of our precious resources – financial
or otherwise – into something that will return nothing
but misery ?

Take a handful of sand and with clenched fist , try to hold it tight. But you can’t. The sand slips through your fingers, no matter how strong a person you are. That’s exactly the case with each and every relationship of your’s, that ends in Death. Body of your loved one remains but the person has slipped out of your embrace. You can do nothing about it ! So why am I telling you this ? 
I want you to truly  realize how fragile, how temporary every relationship is.


You may wish a thousand times while looking at framed photo of a person who has expired and whom you loved very much, to come alive,  but if actually it happens one day, i.e your loved one comes alive in the frame, then my friend you will probably faint in fright or have a stroke or  both.

Moral : If wishes were horses, you may go wherever you want but the ride may not be a very pleasant experience.