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Love At First Sight is the most terrible thing that can happen to you. You have fallen in love with someone you don’t know, don’t understand yet. And truly loving someone is not a switch that can be turned off, if you find later on, that he / she is not the right one for you. Its an emotional investment you made without knowing the basics. So Love At First Sight happens and it happens mostly to the unfortunates.


Love has nothing to do with roses, sunsets, candlelights, poetries, romance, beauty, beautiful quotes and so on. Love is just an emotional investment one person makes in another. So like all investments, it needs cautious approach and prudent handling 

First a story for you.

* Two travelling monks reached a town where there was a young woman waiting to step out of her sedan chair. The
rains had made deep puddles and she couldn’t step
across without spoiling her silken robes. She stood there,
looking very cross and impatient. She was scolding her
attendants. They had nowhere to place the packages they
held for her, so they couldn’t help her across the puddle.
The younger monk noticed the woman, said nothing, and
walked by. The older monk quickly picked her up and put
her on his back, transported her across the water, and
put her down on the other side. She didn’t thank the older
monk; she just shoved him out of the way and departed.
As they continued on their way, the young monk was
brooding and preoccupied. After several hours, unable to
hold his silence, he spoke out. “That woman back there
was very selfish and rude, but you picked her up on your
back and carried her! Then, she didn’t even thank you!”

“I set the woman down hours ago,” the older monk
replied. “Why are you still carrying her?”  *

There is an actual cost to holding onto things we should
let go of. It can come in the form of anger, frustration,
resentment or something even worse. The question is,
can you really afford to keep paying the bill?
The faster we learn to drop our emotional dead weight,
the more room we create for something better. I’m
talking about everything from stewing about the guy
who cut you off in traffic this morning to still refusing
to forgive an old friend for an event 20 years ago.
We have only so much bandwidth. We have only so
much time. We only have so much energy. Do we really
want to invest any of our precious resources – financial
or otherwise – into something that will return nothing
but misery ?

Everybody wants to love somebody and be loved in return. The very first and only lesson in love and romance is :


You must be very sure of the nature, character and compatibility of the person before you make your investment.